Even if you aren’t asexual or aromantic, it’s okay to not want a relationship. Sex and romance are complicated, even moreso if you have dysphoria, trauma, or other factors making it harder. It’s okay to enjoy friendships and be with yourself without a relationship.
11/11/18 - spent the day lying in my love’s bed and watching youtube all day. i have been so sleepy all day and have been dealing with my allergic reaction to who knows what so i decided to just be warm and snuggle today. this is my first habit tracker and it has messy lines where my hand got tired or where my hand slipped but i am pretty proud of how orderly it looks otherwise! i may add more habits or little drawings later and will post an update if so!
elections will come and go all around the world but jeb memes will never die
jeb memes will never stop being funny and you can catch me in 2086 losing my shit over an image of jeb winning a landslide victory as the president of mars
Growing up my parents taught me that if you’re too sick to [insert responsibility here] then you’re too sick to [insert something that makes you happy here].
It took me a really long time to unlearn this. When I would get sick or have a “bad day” I would deprive myself of anything that made me happy. Watching movies, eating something I enjoyed, going for a walk, playing video games or just browsing online looking at funny cat videos. I wouldn’t let myself do these things because I was always told that if I’m too sick to go to work, or do homework, or go to school then I must be too sick to play Mortal Kombat or watch Unsolved Mysteries lol.
Whenever I wouldn’t feel good, which I later learned as an adult was due to sleep deprivation caused by my ADHD and depression (and of course the depression itself would cause me to feel like shit), my parents would tell me “if you’re not throwing up, then you’re not sick.” And when I would stay home from school (or even work in my later teen years) my parents would make sure that I didn’t have any “fun.” No TV, no movies, no games, no going outside, no arts and crafts, no books, no nothing. Just lay in bed and feel miserable.
I’m happy to say that I no longer do this to myself. Now when I’m having a bad day or I’m sick (cold, flu or whatever) I allow myself to do the things (within reason lol) that I actually love doing. If I’m not too sick to step outside for a few minutes then I’ll go for a walk. I’ll watch my favorite movies and if it’s a bad day or a cold (something that doesn’t hinder my appetite too much) I’ll eat my favorite foods. I don’t guilt trip myself anymore for having a “sick day.”
Just because you’re sick (whether physically, emotionally or mentally) doesn’t mean that you can’t do things you enjoy. You’re not any less sick because you watch TV. You’re not any less sick because you’re playing video games.
Actually you SHOULD be doing these things when you’re not feeling good because they make you feel better. The better you feel, the faster your heal.
I grew up with the same attitude about being sick and let me tell you, it seriously fucked me up when I became disabled / chronically ill. It’s taken me FOREVER to stop feeling guilty about doing enjoyable stuff.
